How can you ensure that your lover won’t take you for granted? Yikes, I just opened a can of worms didn’t I? I know, but what can we do? We have to solve this issue sometime, don’t you think? So let’s get started.
The man who fights for you does two things at the same time. He confirms to himself that he is ‘fighting the good fight’ and also, he shows you that you are valuable to him. These are both extremely important qualities. On the one hand, he understands that in order to keep you, he will have to become better and overcome the obstacles that hold him back, both in his life and in his relationship.On the other hand, you get the confirmation that you are not investing your time and feelings into someone who doesn’t value them.
One thing we must keep in mind is that the value of something is always proportional to how much we have worked for it. If we find 100 dollars on the street for example, it will be much easier to spend it on something insignificant than if we’d actually worked hard to earn it.
As simplistic as that sounds, the same thing happens in relationships. Married couples and those who’ve been together for a long time stop making as much effort. They don’t feel the need to try anymore. But this reasoning almost always ends with one person feeling undervalued
So what is the solution? Should you play ‘hard to get’ all the time? But then you’d surely be exhausted, right? Well.. yes, that would be extremely exhausting. And because of that, we’d suggest a different solution…
In short, you just have to let the man fight for you. Take the simplest example: You make him food and he doesn’t thank you for it, because he’s used to it. Instead of saying, ‘that’s alright, he can’t please me all the time’, tell him the next day that there is no food for that day. And for what reason? Because he didn’t appreciate it the day before.
And you can do this with everything. If you make most of the money and pay bills all the time, tell him that this month he needs to do something to help more or you won’t pay either. If you usually watch his favourite channel together, let him watch it alone until he starts missing your company. And so on and so forth.
Caution! When you start putting your foot down, do so gently and try to avoid being demanding and asking for attention all the time.This will have the opposite effect. You just have to show him that you know what you’re worth and you know what you’ve invested in your relationship. This should hopefully make it clear to him that he needs to give the same, or he may no longer enjoy the privilege of being with you.
The way to become not just whiny but a woman who stands on her own two feet and knows what she wants is (again) simple. Stop thinking you need him. You don’t need him, you want him. And these two are very different. If you act like you need him, then all your guy will hear is fear and whining, and he won’t react well to that. If you know what you’re worth without him, then you won’t accept anything less. Don’t give him your power.
Have things in your life that fill you up and don’t make your whole life revolve around him. Not only will he take you for granted, but you will end up feeling empty if you do this too. Remember, you don’t have to play ‘hard to get’, you just don’t have to go out of your way to make his life easy without him doing the same for you.
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