Are there really ways to make someone fall in love with you? Are we maybe talking about spells? What about hypnosis? Well, ladies… we are talking about science, as strange as it may seem to you! Keep reading to find out more.
First let’s start by saying that fortunately or unfortunately (we lean towards fortunately), there is no trick to making him fall in love with you. But one thing you can do, and we’ll see how together, is be strategic. There’s strategy in love? How’s that possible? Well, it is!
Love is an emotion, just like fear, happiness, and so on. Just as there are strategies to stop being afraid or to become happier, there are strategies for love. But don’t worry, using a strategy doesn’t make the game or the result any less fun. It pretty much does the opposite.
But since the less said, the better, let’s have a look at some ideas. Ready? Take notes!
How to make him fall in love with you
Show interest in what he says and who he is
Although men have a reputation for not listening to us when we talk, in reality women are much more ‘deaf’ to what the person they care about tells them. In a study done by the University of Nevada and the University of Washington, psychologists found that being a good listener plays a huge role in whether or not someone will fall in love with you.
The bottom line here, is that it isn’t enough to just listen to what he is saying and wait for him to finish with our answer ready, or to change the subject, first chance we get. We need to learn to listen to who he really is, what he likes, what he doesn’t like, what he cares about, what he fears, and everything else he tells us.
The best way to show him that we are listening to him and that we don’t want to change him, is to ask him supplementary questions on the subject he is talking to us about.
Look him in the eye
Watch out! Don’t just look at him. Look him in the eye. The directive is very specific. There have been countless experiments and studies on this topic, but the one that made the biggest impression on us is a piece of research called ‘Looking and loving: The effects of mutual gaze on feelings of romantic love‘.
In it, multiple pairs of unknown heterosexuals sat across from each other and were asked to look at each other for two minutes. A huge percentage of participants said they felt romantic and even passionate feelings for the person sitting across from them. The explanation? When we look into someone’s eyes, their body produces a chemical called phenylethylamine (or PEA) that can make someone fall in love.
Play it hard to get
Having made it this far, you may be wondering why we’re now talking about this cliché? Well, let us explain ourselves. This ‘play it hard to get’ crap is very misunderstood, you’re right, but let me tell you why it works before you dismiss it.
There is something called ‘Τhe scarcity principle’. But what is it? Basically, it’s the same messaging that both advertisers and sellers use to encourage you to buy: ‘Last pieces, get it now before we are all sold out!’. But I can give you another example if this one didn’t persuade you.
Imagine you’re in a seminar for 15 days. At first you don’t like anyone. By the end of the seminar, you’ve convinced yourself that so-and-so is finally handsome and you want him. The same in a bar, the same in school, and so on. The suddenly narrowing world makes us feel like we have to make a choice quickly or we’ll ‘lose’. You get the point…
So by being hard to get, you’re showing him that you’re worth more than he may have thought you were at first, even if he wasn’t that interested initially. And guess what that’ll make him do – he will start to fall in love with you!
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